I tried not to believe my eyes but it was just not working because it was all too clear. Yes,that was my boyfriend over there and who was the skinny girl whose waist he seemed to hold on tight to like his life support?I had no idea.
I felt following them was immature but curiosity got the better part of me. I followed them quietly like a shadow into the hotel and waited for them to check in before I continued my mission. He started kissing her even before he opened the door and at that moment I felt like the green arrow missed a target and it shot straight to the middle of my heart. I couldn't believe he was the same guy that talks to me about family and marriage. I gathered courage anyway and knocked,he hesitated before opening the door and when he did,I was waiting for surprise,shock or even regret to show on his face but I saw something that looked like gladness instead. I was heartbroken, couldn't even make a sound,with a teary eye I just kept on staring.
Then his girlfriend came out and made the statement I could destroy the world for.."Who is this fatty?" I was wishing and hoping you wouldn't say a word or mabye tell me its not what I think or something else. But he did make a statement and in his words exactly "the burden I told you about". I couldn't stay a second longer,I stormed out of the place and practically hopped into a speeding taxi. I couldn't go to the house I shared with him because it wouldn't feel like home. I went to a friend's place and it took me sometime to get myself together. The mistake I made was to think about their words even for a day. I didn't let their words break me because their words didn't make me. It didn't stop me from loving myself,I even cherished my body more. My mum told me that being happy is the only revenge worth it. I made Meghan Trainors all about the bass my best song and Tess Hollidays story was something I read say and night.
As a plus size,the worst thing you can do to yourself is to believe people's words and opinions about you. If your man breaks up with you because of your size then he has never loved you. Don't hate yourself because of it just thank him and move on. Don't lock yourself up and cry about not being skinny. He didn't break up because of your size,he simply is a jerk who doesn't know the value of thick curvy girls.
Tuesday, 25 August 2015
Wednesday, 19 August 2015
What to wear to the mall as a plus size
Going to the mall for window shopping or actual shopping could be a very hectic exercise for some plus size ladies. They have their bath only to sit at the corner of their bed to deliberate on going back or just staying home.
Let me suggest a few things to wear to the mall so you don't have any excuse to stay back at home.
1)LOOSE PANTS: I don't know about you put I know for sure that putting leggings on could as well be the most stressful thing I would have to do any day I decide to finally wear one. The whole pulling and stretching could be very discouraging and so damn annoying you end up tossing yourself on your bed and that's it for the day,no more shopping. I would advice you go for loose but smart pants because it is very easy to put on and of course comfortable since you would be doing alot walking at the mall. Wearing loose pants will not make your size too obvious and wikk definitely not draw unnecessary attention to you. The most important point,you wouldn't have to squeeze into your pant.
2)WEAR SANDALS: A Very good pair of leather sandals could be your best companion on that trip to the mall. It is more comfortable to wear sandals around as the thick leather soles will serve as shock absorbers and you would not stop at intervals to let the pains on your toes ease away. A nice pair of loafers could do as much good too.
3)WEAR CLOTHES THAT ARE NOT TOO BRIGHT: Looking like a living rainbow is surely not the best way to tell people you know about fashion too. Remember what it took you to come to the mall instead of eating the packet of chocolate at home. Wear clothes that don't have bright colours and if you must wear that orange top,look for a black trouser to go with it. You came for shopping not carnival.
4)A LITTLE MAKE-UP: You dont want to show up at the mall looking like a mourning lady. Gathering that whole courage at home only to get to the mall to suddenly feel low could be more annoying than trying to fit into a size 6 yoga pant. Don't doll yourself up,just a little powder,mascara and lipstick. Look pretty.
Live your life because it is all that really matter. Other people's opinions don't even count and don't do it if you don't want to. Sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone can make a very big and unexpected change in your life.
Let me suggest a few things to wear to the mall so you don't have any excuse to stay back at home.
1)LOOSE PANTS: I don't know about you put I know for sure that putting leggings on could as well be the most stressful thing I would have to do any day I decide to finally wear one. The whole pulling and stretching could be very discouraging and so damn annoying you end up tossing yourself on your bed and that's it for the day,no more shopping. I would advice you go for loose but smart pants because it is very easy to put on and of course comfortable since you would be doing alot walking at the mall. Wearing loose pants will not make your size too obvious and wikk definitely not draw unnecessary attention to you. The most important point,you wouldn't have to squeeze into your pant.
2)WEAR SANDALS: A Very good pair of leather sandals could be your best companion on that trip to the mall. It is more comfortable to wear sandals around as the thick leather soles will serve as shock absorbers and you would not stop at intervals to let the pains on your toes ease away. A nice pair of loafers could do as much good too.
3)WEAR CLOTHES THAT ARE NOT TOO BRIGHT: Looking like a living rainbow is surely not the best way to tell people you know about fashion too. Remember what it took you to come to the mall instead of eating the packet of chocolate at home. Wear clothes that don't have bright colours and if you must wear that orange top,look for a black trouser to go with it. You came for shopping not carnival.
4)A LITTLE MAKE-UP: You dont want to show up at the mall looking like a mourning lady. Gathering that whole courage at home only to get to the mall to suddenly feel low could be more annoying than trying to fit into a size 6 yoga pant. Don't doll yourself up,just a little powder,mascara and lipstick. Look pretty.
Live your life because it is all that really matter. Other people's opinions don't even count and don't do it if you don't want to. Sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone can make a very big and unexpected change in your life.
Saturday, 15 August 2015
How to overcome plus size trauma
Being slim or trimmed is not same as being beautiful. They are two very different things.
Being obese and being fat are not the same too. A lot of ladies today think it's all about size,so many even think once you are not slim,fashion is not for you. All these are just ideas that are straight out of nowhere but imaginations. Being a plus size teenager or youth doesn't mean you are cursed. You have to love yourself and appreciate God's work in you. Yes,continue your workouts but don't kill yourself or devout all your time to it. Being slim cannot put food on your table and definitely will not make your bank account fat.
There are other things to do than spend 15hours in a gym. You could spend more time doing things that make you happy.
You could go for a walk.
Call the girls for gists.
Read a novel.
Think of ways to keep your mind on your set goals.
Being a plus size doesn't kill. Obesity does.
Most clothes that have small and medium sizes have Xl too.
If that clothe you saw at the boutique doesn't have your size then forget it look for another.
Dress smart and classy. DON'T wear tight clothes,you don't want people giving you that what-is-she-wearing at the mall which makes you think twice.
Discover life..live it..be happy.
No matter your size,that guy that will love everything about you will come your way. It's all about time.
You've tried everything possible to be slim and nothing seems to be working but have you tried being happy just the way you are?.
You might not even look as pretty as you currently are if you slim down.
The chubby pretty face,the lush pretty lips will all be bony.
You were created for a reason and its not to lose weight.
Three things to help you overcome plus size trauma.
DISTRACTIONS : ALways try as much as possible to distract yourself from all the things going on in your mind. Do something you like,anything at all. You could sit outside the house and chat with kids.
You could visit a friend. You could pick up your phone and surf the net. Go shopping. Go clubbing. Dance. Do anything at all.
SELF-LOVE: It's about you and no one else. Rule your world. Love yourself no matter what,no matter how you are. Everyone will not be slim. Be among the plus size queens. Appreciate what you have and watch other people appreciate you. Flaunt what you have. Don't hide yourself. Change your wardrobe if you must. Spend more time taking care of yourself than thinking about your size. Spend more time taking care of yourself than at the gym.
SELF-ESTEEM: Most plus size youths always have low self esteem because they feel they are not pretty enough or shapy enough. This affects your thinking and so affects everything about you. You dont even feel comfortable around people. You have to fight this feeling. Those thoughts about not being pretty. You can't stand slim girls and all that. Who says you can't break someones' neck if she tries to mock your size?. Stand tall and stand strong. Don't let words bring you down.
Even as a plus size. You can be a model. You can achieve what ever you want to achieve. Size shouldn't stop you. Because you are beautiful the way you are. And notjing can stop you from reaching great heights. Just learn to be happy with yourself.
Being obese and being fat are not the same too. A lot of ladies today think it's all about size,so many even think once you are not slim,fashion is not for you. All these are just ideas that are straight out of nowhere but imaginations. Being a plus size teenager or youth doesn't mean you are cursed. You have to love yourself and appreciate God's work in you. Yes,continue your workouts but don't kill yourself or devout all your time to it. Being slim cannot put food on your table and definitely will not make your bank account fat.
There are other things to do than spend 15hours in a gym. You could spend more time doing things that make you happy.
You could go for a walk.
Call the girls for gists.
Read a novel.
Think of ways to keep your mind on your set goals.
Being a plus size doesn't kill. Obesity does.
Most clothes that have small and medium sizes have Xl too.
If that clothe you saw at the boutique doesn't have your size then forget it look for another.
Dress smart and classy. DON'T wear tight clothes,you don't want people giving you that what-is-she-wearing at the mall which makes you think twice.
Discover life..live it..be happy.
No matter your size,that guy that will love everything about you will come your way. It's all about time.
You've tried everything possible to be slim and nothing seems to be working but have you tried being happy just the way you are?.
You might not even look as pretty as you currently are if you slim down.
The chubby pretty face,the lush pretty lips will all be bony.
You were created for a reason and its not to lose weight.
Three things to help you overcome plus size trauma.
DISTRACTIONS : ALways try as much as possible to distract yourself from all the things going on in your mind. Do something you like,anything at all. You could sit outside the house and chat with kids.
You could visit a friend. You could pick up your phone and surf the net. Go shopping. Go clubbing. Dance. Do anything at all.
SELF-LOVE: It's about you and no one else. Rule your world. Love yourself no matter what,no matter how you are. Everyone will not be slim. Be among the plus size queens. Appreciate what you have and watch other people appreciate you. Flaunt what you have. Don't hide yourself. Change your wardrobe if you must. Spend more time taking care of yourself than thinking about your size. Spend more time taking care of yourself than at the gym.
SELF-ESTEEM: Most plus size youths always have low self esteem because they feel they are not pretty enough or shapy enough. This affects your thinking and so affects everything about you. You dont even feel comfortable around people. You have to fight this feeling. Those thoughts about not being pretty. You can't stand slim girls and all that. Who says you can't break someones' neck if she tries to mock your size?. Stand tall and stand strong. Don't let words bring you down.
Even as a plus size. You can be a model. You can achieve what ever you want to achieve. Size shouldn't stop you. Because you are beautiful the way you are. And notjing can stop you from reaching great heights. Just learn to be happy with yourself.
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